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By: Lindsay

Lindsay — Mon, 04 Oct 2010 02:35:09 +0000

I stumbled upon your website and wanted to say that I’m so sorry to hear that you lost your baby. It completely sucks and I’m sending cyber hugs and prayers your way.

My husband and I lost three babies in a row and it was an emotional roller coaster, to say the least. Now we have our miracle baby and I can almost forget the pain we went through.

I spent a lot of time online during that time. It’s a great resource and can be so soothing talking to other people who have had the same experiences. Again, big hugs and prayers go out to you.

By: sarah

sarah — Thu, 03 Jun 2010 01:07:56 +0000

These comments created such a strong and heartfelt feelings of emmotions. I hope they have enriched your heart and given you and your family strength to get through this hard time

By: Kristi Schneider

Kristi Schneider — Sun, 25 Apr 2010 05:42:51 +0000

Wow, Ali. I accidentally found this site on another site called the get schooled blog. I just wanted you to know, as you do, you are not alone in this. My first pregnancy, I had an ultrasound at 6 weeks- perfect! Even got a photo that was amazing, as it showed the baby sprawled out on his/her back. Hurried home emailed the picture and announcement to everyone! 3 weeks later, prior to going out of the country, I went in for a check-list of how to be safe when traveling. At 4:30 the OB took a listen and no heartbeat. Went to the “machine” only for her to tell me she wasnt good with it, the nurses had all gone for the day, but she was pretty certain there was no heartbeat. Like you, I was sent home kinda not knowing, alone. My husband came home from work, we asked everyone for prayer. That night I prayed all night determined to bring life back into this soul! Afterall, we had already picked out “her” name (I felt it was a girl), and her name was Jasmine. I put earphones on my belly and played Christian music all night. The next morning the bad news was confirmed. Then we had to break the news to everyone.

That night, our bible study group all came over for support. Oddly enough, they gave us a beautiful plant, that when it bloomed the smell could be smelt in the house, outside, front yard, back yard; it was always with us! That plant was later identified as a “Confederate Jasmine”! It still lives by our back door.

For many weeks and months, I cried myself to sleep. I would pray and hold my hands up to the sky and ask God to just please put her in my arms.

We still went away to Jamaica, as we needed time alone. While there, we decorated a conch shell with a love letter to the baby, went on a boating cruise, had a ceremony & tossed it overboard; very moving, yet loving!

To this day I dont know why & I do reflect from time to time. Just know that, it is ALWAYS ok to grieve this sort of silent situation! WE’re here for you!

Kristi in Virginia Beach

By: Susan Gertz

Susan Gertz — Fri, 23 Apr 2010 16:12:25 +0000

Your story brought back memories of my two miscarriages about 25 years ago. It was so hard then, but so much has happened since, and my daughter and son graduate from college next month. The joy you have in your daughter and whatever future children you have will ease this painful time.

By: vanessa diel

vanessa diel — Thu, 15 Apr 2010 03:34:36 +0000

I am so sorry. I am just reading this. I have been out of the loop lately and haven’t looked at anyone’s blog much. My thoughts and prayers are with you. Just keep your faith in God. He has the perfect plan.

God Bless!
Vanessa

By: Kara

Kara — Sun, 11 Apr 2010 02:52:30 +0000

I am so sorry to hear of your loss. I have lost 5 to miscarriage myself and the fact of the matter is it stinks!!! I once read that one of the reasons why miscarriage is so hard is because it’s more real to you than it is to others, and that when you lose a loved one having physically known them, you have the memories and joy of them to bring you peace. In miscarriage you lose your hopes and dreams for what could have been.
My last miscarriage was 2 years ago, and I can tell you, while it will always bring some sadness the excruciating pain does subside.
My thoughts and prayers are with you - I absolutely admire your work.

By: Kevin Halliburton

Kevin Halliburton — Thu, 08 Apr 2010 15:16:52 +0000

My thoughts and prayers are with you and John. My wife and I lost 5 children to miscarriage between our oldest (8 yr. old) and our youngest (21 months). It’s difficult to loose a child at any age. Love and attachment develop a lot faster than babies.

Even with that, or perhaps because of that, I know that I can’t fully understand the personal pain of your loss. I hope it is a comfort to know that a father in central Texas shed fresh tears over your loss today and lifted you in prayer to the Father in heaven who alone can understand and heal.

By: Hannah Lundberg

Hannah Lundberg — Tue, 06 Apr 2010 23:04:31 +0000

I don’t know what to say other than that I am truly truly sorry for your loss.

By: Stacy

Stacy — Tue, 06 Apr 2010 12:37:06 +0000

I am so sorry for what you and your family are going through. I can’t even imagine how you must feel. It is really unfair when things like this happen to good people. I am sending lots of prayers your way.

By: Trina Gueck

Trina Gueck — Mon, 05 Apr 2010 21:13:52 +0000

Hi…I found your page while doing a search for OCF and read your post. I’m so sorry to hear about your loss. You and your family will be in my prayers. **HUGS**